The things that we come to tolerate, and allow for whatever reason, show us interesting points about ourselves.

The condition in which we tolerate things that are different from ourselves, religion, sexuality, race, general beliefs, these all stand for the type of person we are. Being able to have an open mind, recognize the difference between individuals, and allowing those differences to be accepted in a positive way, make us better as a person.

The tolerance we show towards the negative things in our lives also shows this. Mistreatment, disrespect, and general hostile remarks toward you, can be looked at in a positive fashion also, if, you allow yourself to understand the nature of those remarks, and the source.

Many people will make rude comments, or statements to you through your life, but understanding that it is not necessarily you that they are lashing out at, can help soften the blow. It does not mean it will not sting, just simply that it did not matter if it was you, or someone else, that they lashed out at. It was simply their need to lash out.

In many situations, the person lashing out, has their own demons to fight, and lashing out at you, is just a byproduct of their own insecurities, or inability to deal with certain aspects of their lives. They try and lash out at you, to get a response from you. To make you angry, or feel less, than you did. That way, they can see that someone else is as unsatisfied with themselves as they are, whether they recognize this or not.

The key to remember, is that it is not personal. They try and make it personal, but it really is not. It is merely an insecurity coming to the surface. A simple, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and walking on, can defuse the potency of the lash, and in many cases, is your best resort.

Not all people, fully understand their own grasp on their emotions, or the things that they can hide from themselves because of it. An uncanny ability to twist the reality in which something is seen, and to make it take shape how they need it to be seen, develops because of this, due to an inability to tolerate the reality of what is actually true.

Tolerating this for an extended amount of time is not something that should be done. It needs to be addressed. Sometimes, those things need to be dragged, kicking and screaming, into the light, so that they can no longer be ignored.

We all have a scale of variation that allows us to balance between the good, and the bad, of what should be tolerated and allowed, and what should not. Being honest with ourselves, and our ability to grasp this, should be understood, so that if help is needed, it can be sought. It does not make you less, because you may need help with something, it just means that occasionally, we all need a guide in some form or another.

Find your balance. Enjoy what you do.