Three simple little words, whose meaning defies logic, and contradict everything that is being said.

They are very powerful words when put together. And their impact, can be strong enough that you may not recognize the full meaning behind them, until another time.

I will tell you this though; These three words should stop you in your tracks, if uttered from anyone close to you, be it friend, relative, or lover.

I am fine.

In my very first post on this website, I told you how I do not care for the impersonal nature in which we live. If you are one of those people that does not mind this, hey, more power to ya, but those words, spoken in your presence, should make you want to be personal. Those words scream a warning, the scale of which varies, but a warning all the same.

Usually, it can mean that the person is just that, fine, but in many instances, when you look, you call tell, that they are not.

This irritates me, so let’s Go Dark. (I warned you about going dark).

Now, social expectations have reached a point where you are expected to smile and accept that answer. Treat it as something else entirely. LIE to yourself, that it is fine. LIE to yourself, that if they wanted to talk they would. LIE to yourself, that you are their friend and if they needed you, they would come to you. And this is the part that pisses me off, LIE to those around you when you say it, and them not calling you on it. Guess what?

You do it.

Think about it. When you say it, how many people actually confront you? If any, then good, we’ll get to that in a minute, but if none…

People surround themselves with others that they call friend, but when it comes down to it, are they? Be honest with yourself. Is this person going to tell me what I Want to hear? Or are they going to tell me what I Need to hear?

Accepting the fact that people are not going to pry into your life, to me, is comparable to having crabs. It is an unnecessary itch that can be handled with the right medicine. If you want that in your life, to be surrounded by people that act like the sheep social acceptance has made them, fine. (There’s that word again).

It comes down to worth, or value.

You should be worth more. Your “friends” should value you enough that they do not let that stand.

If you say, “I am fine”, when you’re not, your friends should have the balls to stand up and call you on it. Whether or not it makes you uncomfortable. Why? Because they are a friend. If you look around and know, just know, that those around you are going to tell you what you want to hear, and that is all they will ever say to you, then get an actual friend.

To those of you that do it, while saying you are a friend; Screw you! Stand the hell up and talk to them.

Ah, what’s the matter? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Does it make you feel vulnerable? Does it, I don’t know, make you feel? Does it make you confront emotions?

Be a friend to those you call friend, or call them what they are, acquaintance.

Guys, reach down and see if you have a pair. Give them a squeeze to be sure, and then step the hell up and be a friend.

Ladies, you’re supposed to be better then us guys. Prove you are and be a friend.

If all you want in your life are distractions, so that you do not have to confront things, or make yourself uncomfortable, or feel, then I feel sorry for you. Confront fear, vulnerability, anger, frustration, all of it.

And if things are still rough, that is alright. People have formed this idea that everything has to be in order. To follow form, and that any deviation from it, equates to broken, crazy, or just plain wrong.

I think Jessie J sums it up perfectly; “It’s okay not to be okay”.

Enjoy what you do.